Setting Boundaries & the Power of Mute

Isn’t it funny how sometimes the smallest changes can have the biggest impacts on your life? I’ve been having a battle for much of this year with one of my colleagues. He was constantly sending messages in our group chat outside of working hours (and inside sometimes, despite the fact we all work opposite each…

Freedom

When you’ve spent much of your adult life in controlling, manipulative relationships, adjusting to ‘normal’ relationships can be challenging. As much as I found myself desperate to get away from these negative behaviours, they almost became the ‘norm’. Life away from these behaviours was unknown and it has been difficult to adjust. Thankfully, today, I…

Onions

This post was originally published on 5th September 2018 and updated on 2nd November 2019. Rumour has it…I’m an onion. Last year, I received some professional coaching as a parting gift from my old CEO. My sessions with the coach, Beth, were pretty epic. They often felt more like therapy sessions then coaching sessions. Either…

Why do we exercise?

Ok, so a large part of exercising is about us looking after our physical fitness. Keeping in shape, improving our health, as a way of letting go of our frustrations after a long, gruelling day in the office, to improve our mental well-being. All perfectly valid reasons to exercise. Whilst many people choose to join…

Self-Care Neglect

As I write this blog post, I’ve been trying to think of a suitable word to sum up how I’ve been feeling during the last couple of months. All I can think of is… ‘meh’. A pretty nondescript word, but sums up how I’ve been feeling. Life has been a little bit all over the…

Solo Traveller

This post was originally published on 4th February 2019 and updated on 11th August 2019. The first time I travelled abroad on my own, I received a mixed reaction from friends and family. Some said good on you. Others thought I was crazy. Won’t you be lonely they asked? Aren’t you scared going alone? Why…

Old Fashioned Romance with a Modern Day Twist

I love being single, but that doesn’t stop me looking forward to being in love again. Although, I have to admit, and if you have read some of my earlier blog posts, you may have already worked out that I’m not actually too good at this love malarkey. Falling for the wrong men is becoming…

The Law of Attraction

Have you ever felt an overwhelming desire to go somewhere you have never been before? Not just because it looks nice, but because you feel something else is pulling you there? For several years, I have had this overwhelming feeling that I need to visit India. The feeling has been so strong lately, that I…

Mental Health Awareness Week

I’ve been thinking about mental health a lot this week. Particularly apt due to it being mental health awareness week. Everywhere I’ve turned there have been reminders about looking after our mental health. Social media has been full of interesting quotes and articles, and celebrities as well as us ‘normal’ folk have been talking about…

Is self care easier if you’re single?

A few weeks ago, I attended a friends hen party. The hen party was fun. But something was troubling me. I was staying in a hotel that night with another friend. While we were busy getting ready for the hen party, she started pouring her heart out to me. It appeared that her marriage was…

Love or Loyalty?

Have you ever stopped to consider whether love or loyalty is more important to you? I hadn’t. However, it was a question raised by one of the guys in the office today, and it’s really got me thinking. Most people in the office opted for loyalty. Without hesitation in most cases. My initial reaction was…

Positivity

Have you ever stopped to consider why you attract negative people into your life? I have to admit, it’s something I have often made a habit of. Not on purpose of course. But time and time again, I would find myself attracting friends and partners who were negative and needy. No matter how hard I…

Knife crime, dirty laundry, and self care

The last couple of weeks have made me realise just how important it is to have a self care bank. If I hadn’t been able to cash in on some of my self care reserves, I definitely wouldn’t have got through it as well as I have. Most of the drama that has unfolded, has…

Valentines

Happy Valentines to you my lovely followers ❤️. Whether you’ve been celebrating today with your partners, your friends, or by yourself, I hope you’ve been kind to yourself today. This is my first single valentines for a couple of years. So many singletons seem to dread the day. Quite frankly, even those in relationships often…

Olhos de Água and Praia da Falesia

After my relaxing day on Tuesday, yesterday I was back into explorer mode. This time I decided to head east of the resort, and headed to the beach at Olhos de Agua. Again, I chose to walk, as good old Google maps told me it was only a short walk away. 20 minutes later, I…

Miss Explorer v Miss Relaxation

Since I arrived in Portugal, I’ve been feeling torn. My intention was to get away, relax, get some self care points in the bag, and to have some much needed reflection time. However, my inner explorer keeps trying to lure me away from this. So, I’ve compromised, alternating each day. A day of exploring, followed…

The Simple Act of Showering

It’s funny how sometimes it’s the smallest new tips or habits that can really change how we feel and deal with situations. For me, being quite newly aware of self-care and wellbeing, I’m constantly learning new methods to try and experiment with. Some stick, others don’t. But I know my self-care journey is all about…

The path to self-discovery

Have you ever been known to choose the wrong partner at a time when you are feeling lost? Perhaps at a time when you have been suffering from low self esteem, you fall for someone who ends up making your self esteem even worse? Or equally as bad, you fall for someone who wants to…

Active Relaxation

After reading an article the other day on active relaxation, it got me thinking. I’m not always very good at slowing down and relaxing, even at weekends. I tend to think that days sitting around not doing much are wasted days. In a world where there is so much to explore, why would I want…

Self-Care Sunday

After the wobbles of last week, it’s been a beautifully chilled weekend. Whilst some of the immediate work pressures have been lessened, there is a lot to do over the next few months, with lot’s of evening meetings coming up. I knew I needed to get some self-care bonus points in the bag to help…

Wobbles, Living Alone and Holidays

I don’t think I’ve ever been more grateful for the weekend to arrive! I had a bit of a wobbly moment midweek where I felt incredibly overwhelmed by the amount of work I need to do between now and the summer. Within the industry I work, everything seems to come at once. Deadlines galore, lot’s…

Signing out of 2018

Well here we are, New Years Eve 2018. The last year has once again been full of highs and lows. There have been losses, heartache, a lot of soul searching, and a lot of self discovery. I may not be where I thought I would be at the beginning of 2018, but I sure know…

5 things i’ve done that make me feel proud of myself

If you’ve read my recent post, Turning 35, you will know that I recently celebrated my Birthday. And if you follow my Instagram account (@Themindfulgingernut) you will know that my lovely mum and dad brought me a book called ‘Self-Care for the Real World‘, by the fantastic Nadia Narain & Katia Narain Phillips. One of the…

Whittlebury Hall

Yesterday I treated mum to a spa day at Whittlebury Hall. Whilst I have been a few times before, mum had never been, and it was nice to finally be able to treat her. We were both ready for a day of rest and relaxation, and what better way to unwind than in the beautiful grounds…

Solitude

As I get older, I find myself enjoying my own company more and more. I wonder if this is an age thing, or even a female thing, but I know its certainly something that crept up on me and took me by surprise. Pre-London, I would be quite happy to spend time doing my own…