It’s been almost two months since I finished going to psychotherapy, and there is still a lot to reflect on. It has been one of the most insightful experiences I’ve been through so far. I learnt so much more about myself in those 12 sessions. In this week’s musings, I want to share some general…
Category: Relationships
My First Therapy Session
On Thursday this week, I had my first therapy session. After finding myself in a vicious cycle of anxiety led thoughts at the beginning of the year, I found myself on a waiting list for psychotherapy. My appointment date came through a couple of weeks ago, and although I knew the session was looming, it…
Old Fashioned Romance with a Modern Day Twist
This post was originally published on 9th June 2019 and updated on 30th May 2021. I love being single, but that doesn’t stop me from looking forward to being in love again. Although I have to admit, and if you have read some of my earlier blog posts, you may have already worked out, I’m…
How To Overcome Loneliness
I recently found myself sitting in a small room in central London being interviewed for a local radio show (click here to check out my guest appearance on Shoreditch Radio. You’ll find me from 36:18!). Not my average day by any means! During the interview, the radio host asked me if I thought London was…
My Top 5 Moments from 2020
We all know that 2020 hasn’t exactly been the best year. It’s had a lot of low points, but it’s really important to keep the good moments in our minds too. Thankfully, the year hasn’t been a complete write-off. Amongst the lows, there have been some highs and, if nothing else, plenty of lessons learnt….
Solitude
This post was originally published on 16th September 2018 and updated on 2nd August 2020 As I get older, I find myself enjoying my own company more and more. Perhaps it’s an age thing, but whatever it is, it crept up on me and took me by surprise. Pre-London, I would be quite happy to…
Crash and Burn
Why is it that I always crash and burn by the time my annual leave arrives? Over time, I’ve come to realise that if I don’t take a significant break from work every 12 weeks, I struggle to function. Yet, despite knowing that, I still end up feeling burnt out by the time my leave…
Valentines
This post was originally published on 14th February 2019 and reposted on 14th February 2020. Happy Valentines to you my lovely followers ❤️ Whether you’ve been celebrating today with your partners, your friends, or by yourself, I hope you’ve been kind to yourself today. This is my first single valentines for a couple of years….
Freedom
When you’ve spent much of your adult life in controlling, manipulative relationships, adjusting to ‘normal’ relationships can be challenging. As much as I found myself desperate to get away from these negative behaviours, they almost became the ‘norm’. Life away from these behaviours was unknown and it has been difficult to adjust. Thankfully, today, I…
Trust, Honesty and Lessons Learnt
Earlier this year, I shared some information with someone whom at the time, I thought I could trust. Someone I classed as a good friend. It turns out I was wrong on both accounts. As with so many things in life, I learnt the hard way. Not only did this make me question who I…
My Top 5 Most Viewed Blog Posts
With the one year anniversary of my first Mindful Musings of a Gingernut blog post less than one week away, I have spent the last few weeks reviewing, refreshing and re-sharing with you my top 5 most visited posts from the past year. In order of most viewed, my top 5 blog posts are: Sparkle…
Honesty
This post was originally published on 29th June 2019 and updated on 24th August 2019. Earlier this year, I wrote a blog post called Love or Loyalty? For me, without love, there is no purpose. However, since writing the original post, I have found myself asking if love and loyalty are the most important things…
Sparkle
This post was originally published on 25th February 2019 and updated on 17th August 2019. How do some people in life just simply make you sparkle? ✨ We’re not just talking ordinary people. These are people who see things that other people don’t see. People who see passed your physical appearance. People who see deep…
Religion, Relationships and Reality
This post was originally published on 5th November 2018 and updated on 19th July 2019. I’ve never been one to take the easy route in life. God only knows why! Sometimes I long for less drama. But in reality, I would probably be bored without it. Throughout my late teenage years, into my twenties, I…
Is self care easier if you’re single?
A few weeks ago, I attended a friends hen party. The hen party was fun. But something was troubling me. I was staying in a hotel that night with another friend. While we were busy getting ready for the hen party, she started pouring her heart out to me. It appeared that her marriage was…
Wedding Season
It’s been a good few years since I last went to a wedding. They can be a bit like buses. You wait ages for one and then two come along at once! This spring, two of my closest friends are getting married to their respective partners. Whilst I have been looking forward to their weddings…
Positivity
Have you ever stopped to consider why you attract negative people into your life? I have to admit, it’s something I have often made a habit of. Not on purpose of course. But time and time again, I would find myself attracting friends and partners who were negative and needy. No matter how hard I…
The path to self-discovery
Have you ever been known to choose the wrong partner at a time when you are feeling lost? Perhaps at a time when you have been suffering from low self esteem, you fall for someone who ends up making your self esteem even worse? Or equally as bad, you fall for someone who wants to…
A Belated New Chapter
Slightly later than anticipated, but Happy New Year to you all. I hope you had a lovely Christmas and a great start to the New Year. 2019 got off to a slightly strange start. I had a lovely Christmas back home with my family. Despite my recent breakup, I was looking forward to getting back…
As one chapter comes to an end, another begins
I feel kinda weird writing this post, but wanted to explain my absence over the last few weeks. It’s been hard to find the right words so as not to cause any further hurt, but at the same time, since I started my blog, I have found it a really useful platform in dealing with…
2019 – I’m coming for you
After months of waiting, we’re entering into the week of the dreaded Visa Appeal. I feel like the last year has been focused on this moment. And now it’s here, I’m not sure how I feel. Going through the application process was hard enough. Finding out the application had been rejected was tough. But the…
The Unknown
Having now turned the clocks back, and with November just around the corner, our uncertain future gets ever closer to becoming clearer. When I met my boyfriend 2 years ago, I knew he was going to have to re-apply for his visa in order to stay here. What I hadn’t accounted for was how either…
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