Turning 35

This post was originally published on 3rd December 2018 and updated on 28th November 2019. This weekend, I turned 35. Birthday’s normally create moments of reflection for me. What have I accomplished in the last year, what do I hope to accomplish in the next? So far this year, I’ve been too lost in other…

Honesty

This post was originally published on 29th June 2019 and updated on 24th August 2019. Earlier this year, I wrote a blog post called Love or Loyalty? For me, without love, there is no purpose. However, since writing the original post, I have found myself asking if love and loyalty are the most important things…

Sparkle

This post was originally published on 25th February 2019 and updated on 17th August 2019. How do some people in life just simply make you sparkle? ✨ We’re not just talking ordinary people. These are people who see things that other people don’t see. People who see passed your physical appearance. People who see deep…

Religion, Relationships and Reality

This post was originally published on 5th November 2018 and updated on 19th July 2019. I’ve never been one to take the easy route in life. God only knows why! Sometimes I long for less drama. But in reality, I would probably be bored without it. Throughout my late teenage years, into my twenties, I…

Old Fashioned Romance with a Modern Day Twist

I love being single, but that doesn’t stop me looking forward to being in love again. Although, I have to admit, and if you have read some of my earlier blog posts, you may have already worked out that I’m not actually too good at this love malarkey. Falling for the wrong men is becoming…

Mental Health Awareness Week

I’ve been thinking about mental health a lot this week. Particularly apt due to it being mental health awareness week. Everywhere I’ve turned there have been reminders about looking after our mental health. Social media has been full of interesting quotes and articles, and celebrities as well as us ‘normal’ folk have been talking about…

Cumin

Isn’t it funny how certain tastes and smells we experience, stay with us throughout our lives? Standing in the kitchen today, frying up a couple of eggs for lunch, I decided to sprinkle a little bit of cumin powder on top of them. As I lifted the lid off the cumin powder, I was instantly…

Is self care easier if you’re single?

A few weeks ago, I attended a friends hen party. The hen party was fun. But something was troubling me. I was staying in a hotel that night with another friend. While we were busy getting ready for the hen party, she started pouring her heart out to me. It appeared that her marriage was…

Wedding Season

It’s been a good few years since I last went to a wedding. They can be a bit like buses. You wait ages for one and then two come along at once! This spring, two of my closest friends are getting married to their respective partners. Whilst I have been looking forward to their weddings…

Reprioritisation

Do you ever find yourself caught up in life and realise that you’ve not quite got your priorities right? Life has been busy lately. In fact, since the new year, life has been pretty mental. Finding time to relax in the evenings and at weekends has been near on impossible, especially since my trip to…

Love or Loyalty?

Have you ever stopped to consider whether love or loyalty is more important to you? I hadn’t. However, it was a question raised by one of the guys in the office today, and it’s really got me thinking. Most people in the office opted for loyalty. Without hesitation in most cases. My initial reaction was…

Positivity

Have you ever stopped to consider why you attract negative people into your life? I have to admit, it’s something I have often made a habit of. Not on purpose of course. But time and time again, I would find myself attracting friends and partners who were negative and needy. No matter how hard I…

Valentines

Happy Valentines to you my lovely followers ❤️. Whether you’ve been celebrating today with your partners, your friends, or by yourself, I hope you’ve been kind to yourself today. This is my first single valentines for a couple of years. So many singletons seem to dread the day. Quite frankly, even those in relationships often…

Dreams

I’d be lying if I said I was looking forward to going back to work tomorrow. I’m not. But, I’m not sitting around dreading it either. I’ve never had a dream job. Even as a kid, I had no idea what I wanted to do. Whilst I was at school, trying to decide whether to…

Praia Santa Eulália, Praia da Oura and Alfagar II Aparthotel

I’m now back in gloomy, grey, England after a beautiful few days in Portugal. The flight into Gatwick yesterday was slightly unnerving, as we landed in high winds. There were gasps, followed by a few expletives from passengers as we made our descent, but thankfully, our pilot got us back safe and sound (and without…

Albufeira

Yesterday was my first full day in Portugal. I am staying around 4km outside of old town Albufeira but I was keen to go and see what the town had to offer. Whilst there were the options of getting a bus from the hotel at 10am, or a local taxi, I decided to walk instead….

The path to self-discovery

Have you ever been known to choose the wrong partner at a time when you are feeling lost? Perhaps at a time when you have been suffering from low self esteem, you fall for someone who ends up making your self esteem even worse? Or equally as bad, you fall for someone who wants to…

Wobbles, Living Alone and Holidays

I don’t think I’ve ever been more grateful for the weekend to arrive! I had a bit of a wobbly moment midweek where I felt incredibly overwhelmed by the amount of work I need to do between now and the summer. Within the industry I work, everything seems to come at once. Deadlines galore, lot’s…

Readjusting

After a wobbly start to the year, a weekend readjusting was much needed. I took a brief trip to the lovely St. Albans on Saturday to meet up with my family. We’ve often suggested meeting half way between Northampton and London, but never actually done it. St. Albans is pretty much bang in the middle…

A Belated New Chapter

Slightly later than anticipated, but Happy New Year to you all. I hope you had a lovely Christmas and a great start to the New Year. 2019 got off to a slightly strange start. I had a lovely Christmas back home with my family. Despite my recent breakup, I was looking forward to getting back…

Signing out of 2018

Well here we are, New Years Eve 2018. The last year has once again been full of highs and lows. There have been losses, heartache, a lot of soul searching, and a lot of self discovery. I may not be where I thought I would be at the beginning of 2018, but I sure know…

New Year, New Goals

It’s that time of year again when we take time to look back at the last 12 months and to look forward to the next. I reflected on much of the last 12 months in a blog I wrote earlier this month called Turning 35, so now it’s time to focus on the next 12 months. I’m  not…

As one chapter comes to an end, another begins

I feel kinda weird writing this post, but wanted to explain my absence over the last few weeks. It’s been hard to find the right words so as not to cause any further hurt, but at the same time, since I started my blog, I have found it a really useful platform in dealing with…

Immigration Tribunal

So Tuesday was the day we’d been waiting for. We don’t officially know the outcome yet, so I’m not going to labour on that point. What a surreal experience it was. As we drove into the car park for the tribunal hearing, we were immediately faced with a detention centre. At the moment this really…

2019 – I’m coming for you!

After months of waiting, we’re entering into the week of the dreaded Visa Appeal. I feel like the last year has been focused on this moment. And now it’s here, I’m not sure how I feel. Going through the application process was hard enough. Finding out the application had been rejected was tough. But the…